Relationship Reruns
/by Tiffany Stout
Many of us find ourselves in the same relationship over and over. It’s a new person, but the story is the same…a lot like watching reruns. Why is that?
There is so much more to childhood than people realize. As a parent, I could spend all my time beating myself up for the mistakes I know I made as a parent but the fact of the matter is, I know more than I did back then and cannot blame myself for what I did not know. The thing is though, that as adults, we have to be willing to not just look at our physical health but also our mental, to evaluate these kinds of aspects of how our own parents affected us. One major indicator that something may be off (again, most parents and families do not have a desire to raise you in such a way that you get trapped in this) is repeatedly choosing relationships that are toxic or somehow unhealthy.
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The reason your childhood matters in the conversation is very primal and basic. We typically go after a relationship like what we have been shown during our developing years. If we are lucky, we pick positive things to look for in a partner. So the real question is, if you have been getting into toxic relationships, what traits do they share with those you observed growing up? Mom? Dad? Brother? Sister? For example, if you looked up to your big brother, then picked a partner who picks on you relentlessly. Did your big brother? Is there a connection? Seeing those connections is often a major game-changer for people. Are you ready to start diving into more of this? Lets work on that and explore new ways and choices so you don't stay stuck in an endless loop of relationship reruns.
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Tiffany Stout, MS, LPC-A, is trained in EMDR and specializes in attachment and relationship issues as well as relationship and other forms of trauma. For more info about Tiffany check out her ABOUT page. Tiffany is supervised by Ella M Dickens, LPC-S
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